My Story


When many women learn I'm a "Dating and Relationship Coach," their first thought is, "This guy thinks he's a ladies' man." I can assure you that's NOT the case. I'm just a normal guy who's extremely passionate about using research and male-female psychology to help others learn from my successes and failures in life and love.

It breaks my heart to see and hear about incredible women suffering needlessly from the same misunderstandings and misinterpretations that have cost me dearly in previous relationships.

Today, I show strong, independent, ambitious and accomplished women how to use simple, but powerful strategies — like Attraction Alignment, Attraction Sequencing, and Creative Seduction — to go from single and frustrated to getting the guy they want faster and easier than they ever thought possible ...

... Even if they feel like they've tried everything or can't find the kind of man they dream about no matter where they look.

Sound too good to be true? It's not.

My clients experience incredible dating and relationship transformations like this — FAST.


"In all honesty, had I gone through Scott's program when I first starting dating 3 years ago, I wouldn't have had to go through numerous first dates and a failed engagement. Scott knows his stuff!

I’ve read all the self-help books from the “dating gurus” with PhDs and other letters after their names and they were all the same and not one of them applicable to me. Throughout Scott’s program I had several “Aha Moments” I never had with any of the others.

During the program, I found myself opening up to men I would not have otherwise considered as a potential partner for me. As I grew in my enlightenment as a result of the program, so did my “dance card." It was as if a whole other world opened for me and I had my pick of men wanting to spend time with and be in a committed relationship. I was like “Holy shit, Scott, where were you and your program 3 years ago when I first started dating again?"

It’s been 2 months since I completed the Get The Guy You Want Program, and in that time, I’ve since found a wonderful man who loves me unconditionally. We’re crazy about each other and wedding bells will be ringing loud and clear in the very near future.

To say I'm ecstatic is truly an understatement. Had it not been for Scott's program, I would probably still be looking at a bleak romantic future. Thank you, Scott!!!!!"

— Toni M., successful 50-something in Dallas, TX


I've also advised more than a dozen professional matchmaking companies

on how to better coach their V.I.P. female clients to get similar results.



"I have been a dating coach and professional matchmaker for over 15 years. I first met Scott a couple years ago and have had the privilege of working closely with him as he helped research, write and design our new dating coaching program. He has also given me additional skills to help my clients find meaningful relationships. He is very insightful, knowledgeable and brings tremendous clarity and passion to the world of male-female relationships.

— Angela Harris, Director of Client Services, MSGI



And I've been a guest speaker at dating industry conferences like iDate 2018

and the Matchmaker's Alliance, where I taught professional dating coaches
and matchmakers how to better coach their female clients. 




At iDate 2018 in Delray Beach, FL with
Amanda Bradford, Founder & CEO of The League,
a popular dating app for sophisticated singles.







"Scott has massive knowledge in the dating and relationship coaching industry. I saw his expertise firsthand when he took the stage at an industry conference for professional matchmakers and dating coaches. His program for smart, strong, successful women is a game changer too.

— Tim Mourtazov, CEO, Co-Founder of SmartMatchApp




I love sharing my hard-won insights with my clients, and occasionally, other dating industry professionals. But getting to this point in my life has been anything but easy.

So, how did I get here?

Here's My Story

I was born and raised in Atlanta, GA, where I spent my "wonder years" playing tennis, riding dirt bikes, crushing on girls, making great grades for college, traveling, and becoming Southern Gentleman.

But despite being a decent-looking guy with good intentions, I didn't date that much in high school because I didn't have enough confidence to approach girls and show an interest in them. Eventually, however, I overcome my fears and began dating.

By 26, I'd dated and won the hearts of five beautiful women, any one of which I could've proposed to and likely received a favorable response. (They frequently told me I was the sweetest, most thoughtful, and romantic boyfriend they'd ever dated.)

None of these relationships made it across the threshold, largely because of what I perceived to be societal conditioning and "pressure" on me to be "the breadwinner." I just didn't fit into all these cookie cutter expectations, and wasn't ready for the responsibility therein.

In retrospect ... this was exactly where my dating philosophies started abandoning the "norm."

Then, at 32, I met a beautiful woman who was "perfect on paper" for me. She said she didn't care how much money I made. All she cared about was that I was doing my best, and that I loved her.

We dated for two years and then broke up because she wasn't meeting my "expectations." She had amazing gifts and talents I'd never even thought to look for in the right woman. But she was lacking in the gifts and talents I believed she was "supposed" to have.

The belief system struck again!

Tip: The #1 secret to success in dating and relationships (and marriage) is to understand and respect your differences, and then work together for your mutual benefit. But that's virtually impossible to do if you don't understand which "type" of person you are and how attraction works.

Confused and heartbroken, I spent the next six months analyzing and reflecting upon my 15+ years of dating and relationship experience.

New insights and strange patterns began to emerge. 

For example, when I was growing up, I was always told women were great at communicating their innermost thoughts and feelings, and most men were bad at it. But it dawned on me that none of my ex-girlfriends were particularly good at communicating and expressing themselves in a vulnerable manner, whereas that’s definitely a strength of mine.

Confusion reigned.

When I started online dating again, I was also puzzled by the fact that all of the big cities I visited for work appeared to be overflowing with smart, attractive, financially successful women.

"Why are all these women single?" I wondered.

Something was going on, and I was determined to get to the bottom of it.

I came at it from a marketing perspective (my background), and asked myself questions like:

— What do these women really want in a man?
— Why can't they find the kind of man they're looking for?
— What are their biggest dating challenges?

Then, when I least expected it, I had THE biggest epiphany of my entire life!

The traditional gender "roles" and courtship "rules" you were taught to believe are the only way to date, are, in reality, making it almost impossible for you to find, meet and keep your amazing man.

In short, the traditional dating "rules" you live and swear by are KEEPING you single/alone.

Here's the REAL problem.

All of your life, you've almost certainly been programmed to believe all men are alike and all women are alike. That's a massive mistake!

The truth is there are, at the very least, two totally different "types" of men and, at the very least,  two totally different "types" of women. And their biological strengths and weaknesses are totally different than what you were taught to believe about "most men" and "most women."

For some men and women, the traditional dating "rules" work just fine. But for others (like you, me, and the men you attract), these "rules" are TOXIC because they are nearly impossible to live up to and find success.

Maybe this is why you're not currently experiencing the results you desire with men and dating.

The solution is to learn and apply a new set of dating and relationship "rules" which will make it infinitely easier for you to find, meet and keep the man you truly desire. 

Get The Guy You Want clients learn how to date strategically different throughout every stage of a successful relationship:

— Mate selection
— Online dating
— Meeting men in-person
— Flirting and exchanging numbers
— Planning your first date
— From first date to a great relationship
— Being his best lover ever (and making him yours)
— Wowing his family and friends
— Nailing special occasions
— Engagements and marriage (if this is your goal)

Sparks fly, hands get held, hearts are won, and wedding bells ring (if that's their goal) faster and easier than they ever thought possible. 










Seeing my clients' rapid dating transformations, and receiving messages like this are why I am compelled to do this innovative work.





I'd love to show you how to do the same. 

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I Can Definitely Help You If ...

— You are a competitive go-getter in your career, so you’re financially successful. Or you’re working hard and you are determined to get there. But the men you attract often aren’t as ambitious, organized, or as “take charge” as you. Or their lives seem chaotic and out of balance, and that turns you off.

You are looking for your equal. You want a dynamic man who’s a lot like you in many ways, just with “different parts.” But no matter where you look, you can’t find the kind of man you’ve been dreaming about. At least, not one you’re sexually attracted to. It’s driving you insane because you know you’re not getting any younger, but you refuse to settle.

You get your fair share of attention from men, so getting a date isn't a problem. But going from first date to a great relationship feels so much harder than it should be. You should have the easiest time finding, meeting and keeping a strong, independent, successful or stable Mr. Right because you are a strong, independent, and successful or stable Ms. Right.

You concede that how you've been dating isn't working and you are open-minded  about trying something totally new and different that works!

You recognize the extreme value of discovering in 8 weeks (just 1-2 hours per week) what took me more than 25 years to piece together, and being empowered to find, meet and keep a man you truly desire faster than you ever thought possible.



Here's my official bio. 

Scott McDougal is a male-female attraction expert, a professional writer, speaker, and dating and relationship coach who shows strong, independent, ambitious and accomplished women how to meet and keep their Mr. Right faster and easier than they ever thought possible.

He's the author of several dating and relationship ebooks for men, and the co-creator of another dating coaching program for single men and women, which he wrote for a client in the professional matchmaking industry.

He has also written professionally for dozens of big brands like Capital One, Delta Vacations, JCPenney, Neiman Marcus, Sam's Club, Susan G. Komen For The Cure, and UNICEF.

Note: Some people have a hard time making a relevant connection between dating and marketing. Here's the connection. "Dating" is merely a label used to describe one application of a variety of skills, such as marketing yourself to the opposite sex, strategic communication, creative communication, personal presentation, writing or texting, authenticity, vulnerability, thoughtfulness, and "Creative Seduction." He teaches all of these skills to his coaching clients.

Scott graduated from Texas Christian University in 2003 with a Bachelor’s in Strategic Communication, and from Miami Ad School Atlanta @ Portfolio Center in 2011 with a graduate degree in Advertising Copywriting (Creative Communication).

He currently resides in the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex.

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