I was born and raised in the Buckhead area of Atlanta, GA, where I spent my "wonder years" playing tennis, riding dirt bikes, making great grades for college, traveling, and becoming Southern Gentleman.
By 26, I'd dated and won the hearts of five beautiful women, any one of which I could've proposed to and married. (I was frequently told I was the sweetest, most thoughtful and romantic boyfriend they'd ever dated.)
But I broke up with all of them because I didn't believe I made enough money. My dad was a successful dentist, and the societal pressure I felt to be the breadwinner was overwhelming. I just couldn't go there.
Then, at 32, I met a beautiful woman who was "perfect on paper" for me. She said she didn't care how much money I made. All she cared about was that I was doing my best, and that I loved her.
We dated for two years. But I broke up with her, too, because she wasn't meeting my expectations. She had amazing gifts and talents I'd never even thought to look for in the right woman for me. But she was lacking in the gifts and talents I believed she was "supposed to" have.
Confused and heartbroken, I spent the next six months analyzing and reflecting upon my 15 years of dating and relationship experience.
New insights and strange patterns began to emerge.
For example, when I was growing up, I was always told women were great at communicating their innermost thoughts and feelings, and most men were bad at it. But it dawned on me that none of my ex-girlfriends were particularly good at vulnerable communication and expressing themselves, whereas that’s definitely a strength of mine.
When I started online dating again, I was also puzzled by the fact that all of the big cities I visited for work appeared to be overflowing with smart, attractive, financially successful women.
"Why are all these women single?" I wondered.
Something was going on, and I was determined to get to the bottom of it.
I came at it from a marketing perspective, and asked myself questions like:
— What do these women really want in a man?
— Why can't they find the kind of man they're looking for?
— What are their biggest dating challenges?
Then, when I least expected it, I had THE biggest epiphany of my entire life!
The traditional gender "roles" and courtship "rules" are actually KEEPING you (and men) single because they make it almost impossible for a man to successfully court you and sweep you off your feet.
Here's the REAL problem.
All of your life, you've been programmed to believe all men are alike, and all women are alike. In this false reality, there's only one "type" of man and one "type" of woman.
The TRUTH is there at least two totally different "types" of men, and two totally different "types" of women, and their innate strengths and weaknesses are completely different than what you were taught.
The #1 secret to success with men in dating and relationships (and marriage) is to understand and respect your differences, and then work together for your mutual benefit.
But that's virtually impossible to do if you don't know which "type" of woman you are, and which "type" of man you are attracted to — due to the universal law of attraction — and how to date differently to achieve your desired outcome.
As a result, you may be unknowingly CREATING the very "man problems" and undesirable dating dynamics that drive you nuts and make you want to pull your hair out!
I know you probably think the men need to change, and there is some truth to that. But most men cannot solve these dating challenges for you because you are unknowingly creating them.
The ONLY way out of this mess is for you to increase your self-awareness and your awareness of the "type" of man you will always attract — I'm this "type" of man, so I know all about him — and then date strategically differently throughout every stage of a romantic relationship:
— Mate selection
— Online dating
— Meeting men in-person
— Flirting and exchanging numbers
— Planning your first date
— From first date to a great relationship
— Being his best lover ever
— Wowing his family and friends
— Nailing special occasions
— Engagements and marriage (if this is your goal)
I also show my clients how to avoid the most dangerous mistakes women like you and men like me almost always make once in a committed relationship (e.g. proactive relationship management).
This is key because even if you get lucky and stumble into a relationship by following the traditional courtship "rules" (which I do NOT recommend), it's almost impossible to stay together long-term if you don't understand and respect your differences.
You'll misinterpret each other's true intentions and fail to meet each other's expectations because expectations are typically based on each individual's innate strengths, without taking into consideration their partner's innate strengths and weaknesses, which may be VERY different than their own.
This needless confusion almost always leads to a painful breakup or a nasty divorce, which can actually be a blessing in disguise. Pain is a sign to STOP doing what caused the pain in the first place. A fresh start is a chance to learn from your mistakes and try something different.
But most people don't learn from their mistakes. They blame the opposite sex and continue to believe the same things they've always believed, which causes them to date the same way they've always dated, which (shocker) gives them similar results.
Tip: It's not your fault that what you were programmed to believe about "most men" and "most women" is WRONG. But that doesn't exempt you from learning the truth and dating differently.
Fortunately, I know more about the innate strengths and weaknesses of strong, independent women like you, and men like me, than most men and women on this planet — including 30-year Ph.D.s in psychology, recent licensed professional counselors, bestselling authors, experienced dating coaches and matchmakers, religious leaders and more. (They're still teaching the traditional gender "roles" and courtship "rules" you already know don't work for you.)
When my clients discover the unconventional, but proven psychology and brain science-based concepts I teach — which make it abundantly clear how they are biologically different from the men they're attracted to and what they must do differently to achieve their desired results — their previous dating and relationship headaches all but disappear because they stop creating these undesirable situations in the first place, and they start working together for a change.
When you truly understand and respect your differences, and work together for your mutual benefit, sparks will fly, hands will be held, hearts will be won, and wedding bells will ring (if that's your goal) faster than you ever thought possible.
Seeing my clients' dating transformations, and receiving messages like this are why I do what I do.
I'd love to show you how to do the same.